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1/31/2019 0 Comments

Snowshoe Into Silence

Start 2019 off with a deep peace that can be found in the stillness of the beautiful 80-acre Northwoods. Snowshoe across a small wildlife lake, sit amongst the trees, and listen to the winter birds, all in silence. Using a grounded balancing breath practice, we will explore the stillness within ourselves and around ourselves. Afterwards, we’ll take the opportunity to share our experiences with each other over refreshments and nutritious soup.

Why would we want to participate in a snowshoe into silence? Many of us spend our days thinking, moving, doing, judging, and evaluating. Our minds are scattered with a constant barrage of information, which can cause depression, anxiety, and stress. Aside from the almost instant feeling of calm and contentment that accompanies time outdoors, walking in nature and being nurtured by connection with others can alleviate anxiety and stress, improve concentration and focus, and reduce inflammation.

Foster deep well-being and experience the stillness and silence of the woods. Do you need to find some balance and clarity in your life? Join us on our magical 80-acres of sacred beauty. We offer participants a chance to tap into your own inner peace and well-being.

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Do You Have Bear Energy?

February is the time for hibernation in bear country, or the Northwoods, but for us humans, we hunker down in winter and call it ‘going within’!

Why would we want to focus on going within and what does that really mean anyways?

Going within is a process that helps us direct our awareness and attention down into our bodies, bringing ourselves into the present moment. This exercise allows us to accept whatever is happening in the moment and allow any emotions to surface and be released. Going within encourages us to point the finger toward ourselves and BE the change we wish to see in the world. Any time you are triggered or have a strong reaction to something going on in your life, that is a clue to go within to track where, when, and who your reaction is in transference too.

“The truth will set you free, but first it might piss you off!” - Gloria Steinem

Most of us spend a good chunk of our day focusing and pointing a finger outward -- we are always judging and evaluating everything that is going on around as as good, bad, right, or wrong. We act as if we are victims of the lives we live. What if we shifted our focus inward? How would a focused change of going inward instead of outward, affect our everyday life?

Take a minute to FEEL how that shift might feel in your body -- no judgements and no critical evaluations. Instead you might have a quiet mind and a feeling of peace, love or joy.

Have I convinced you to hunker down and start your journey of going within? If so, here are some tools and events that will help you get started. Having a silent breathing practice is they key to start you in the right direction.

1. My free PDF Breathwork Tool will help you practice your breathing, focus inward, and calm your mind down. If you practice enough, it will create a lasting change in your life. It sounds simple, but until you actually take on this mindful practice each day, you will not notice a change!

2. Check out my recurring event, Snowshoeing into the Silence, located on our beautiful 80-acres retreat, the Northwoods, just 15 minutes outside Traverse City. These snowshoe meditations are from 10:30 am - 12:00 pm on February 10th and 17th. After a silent snowshoe trek around the lake, hot drinks and nutritious soups will be served. And to finish the connection, we will have the opportunity to share our own experiences. If you can’t do a snowshoe with us, just go outside and connect, be silent and do some sort of movement.

Do you have any other pointers for going within in your life? Leave your suggestions in the comments below!

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1/3/2019 0 Comments

AIMS: CREATING A VISION FOR 2019!

WHAT IS AN AIM?

An AIM is an intention that stems from a curious investigation about your life. It requires turning your attention inward not outward, when you are trying to achieve something.

It is not like setting a goal, which tends to be based on the ego or the future. A true AIM is directed toward truth, no matter what that truth is. The target your AIMING at is NOW, in the present moment.

To set your intention, you must be committed to being present and curious during the investigation.

What is the difference between an aim and a goal?

The practice of setting goals often comes from a stiff rigidity of judgement and in turn, we tend to beat ourselves up if we don’t get to where we ‘think’ we should be. Further, a goal tends to be ego-driven and is a way for us to seek out more happiness, love, and so forth.

With goal-setting, we tend to go to our heads or mental place - attempting to will ourselves to achieve the goal. Whereas with aim-setting, we set an intent to become curious and investigate with our whole bodies (not just our head, cognitive level) in the process.

SETTING YOUR AIMS FOR THE YEAR

What are your AIMS for 2019? In other words, what do you want to feel differently about in your life this upcoming year?

To help you set your AIMS, as well as action steps to help you get there, here is a step by step process:

STEP 1: DO YOU HAVE A BALANCED LIFE?

Allocate a percentage to each of the following 5 categories based on time spent, either on a weekly, monthly, or yearly basis.

Family / Relationships
Inner Life / Spirituality
Work / Professional Life
Fun / Play
Health / Wellness

Example

Family / Relationships - 20%
Inner Life / Spirituality - 20%
Work / Professional Life - 30%
Fun / Play - 10%
Health / Wellness - 20%

STEP 2: DETERMINING AIMS & ACTION STEPS

Come up with an AIM and at least one follow-up action step for each of the following categories:

Family / Relationships
Inner Life / Spirituality
Work / Professional Life
Fun / Play
Health / Wellness

Example

CATEGORY: Family / Relationships

AIM: Be more curious about why I struggle to make true heart contact (i.e. being present in the body and having a fully open heart without withdrawing) with others.

ACTION STEP: My action step is to practice making active contact with my family members on a daily basis (without numbing out on my iPhone or TV during the process). I will practice active listening 1x a day for 15 minute increments, 5x a week.

THE KEY FOR ACTION STEPS

The more specific, the better.
Start small and work your way up to bigger AIMS as you become more confident with the process.
Set your intention to have a curious inquiry. Even if you cannot follow-through with your action steps, be curious as to why you can’t fulfill your promise(s) to yourself.
Start a journal about your inquiries so you can check every month to evaluate your effort, progress, and hold yourself accountable.
Find an accountability buddy or hire a coach.
Have a growth mindset. It will take judgment out of the equation.

A C C O U N T A B I L I T Y

It is often easier to hold ourselves accountable to other people rather than ourselves.
When it comes to keeping a promise to ourselves, we struggle.

If you have a hard time keeping a promise to yourself, start an inquiry into this.
Before you can hold yourself accountable, you might need someone else to hold you accountable first.

#MindsetMastersUnite!

SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR SUCCESS:
DAILY RITUALS

Setting yourself up for success is about having rituals that you implement into your daily life. I feel a daily practice is the key to living a life with purpose.

Here are some rituals you can integrate into your daily habit routine.

Breathing
Time Block
Movement
Gratitude
Limits

Be silent as you practice your breathing.

Benefits:

Strengthens productivity
Proven to help with health and wellness
Helps ground you into the present moment

Tools:

www.hearthmath.com
The Breathwork Tool Handout

Block off 50 minutes each day to focus on only one thing. After you cross the finish line, reward yourself with a ‘brain break.’ Optional: add mandatory 10 minute breaks where no work is allowed.

Benefits:

The method is backed by research, which shows that time blocks are effective time management tools.

Tools:

Schedule these recurring 50 minute blocks on your phone and set reminders in your automated calendar.

Start small and build exercise and movement into your routine. For example, I'm doing 4 minutes of aerobic exercise 4 times per day. Doing these 4 minute blocks of time is achievable! Remember to be consistent.

Benefits:

Good for your brain as it reduces the cortisol (i.e. stress hormone) levels in your system.

Tools:

Article: Hearts Get 'Younger,' Even At Middle Age, With Exercise
Check in with yourself before and after each daily practice. Can you feel the difference in your body and nervous system?

A good daily morning ritual is to keep a gratitude journal or to say thank you to one person each day.

Benefits:

Feel more optimistic!
Research shows that giving thanks can make you happier (Harvard).

Define limits on things that keep you from achieving your AIMS. For two weeks, track how you actually spend your time. You might be shocked to view your time management habits on a daily basis. Now, try to replace those time blocks with more productive activities that help you move toward the life you want to create. For daily tasks, like email and social media management, set aside 2-3 blocks of 10 minutes each to check them.

Tools:

Check the iPhone Screen Time application to see how much time you spend on your mobile phone each day and set limits.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Add new success rituals (i.e. habits) one at a time so they stick!
We spend more time planning our vacations than we do our day-to-day lives. What do you want your average day to look like?
Begin with the end in mind
We use a road map/GPS device to find our destination when we do not know where we are going. Why do we think we can meander through life and live a life on purpose? We need to focus, set our intention and take action!
Attach a new habit to something you already do to make it easier.

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12/1/2018 0 Comments

Self-Care: Let' s practice

Do you think that if you take time for yourself, it’s selfish, rude, or not allowed?

I encourage you to change your perspective on self-care and instead think: IF I take time for my well-being, THEN I’m respecting myself.

Are you struggling to sleep at night or stressing about your work/life balance?

Do you incorporate any play or fun into your daily life? Or does that just happen on Saturdays?

If you don’t practice self-care, it can have consequences. Self-care reduces the negative effects of stress, help you refocus, and can positively impact your health and relationships.

If you continue to put yourself last, nothing changes. Nobody is coming to rescue you. I know it's a hard reality to accept, but you are the creator of your daily life. You are the change!

Self respect exercise — time to practice

1) Make a list of 10 activities for your perfect day. Think about activities that will make your heart sing. To get started, check out this website and these suggestions:

Do nothing at all.
Practice your 5-minute breathing exercises.
Drink a glass of water. Add a lemon, maybe.
Smell your favorite scent. Try lavender essential oil to relax, a hot mug of peppermint tea for an energy boost, or a flower from your local market.
Turn on a song from your high school days and dance!
Take a walk around your yard. Observe and ground.
Start a jar of sunshine. On a piece of paper, write something that made you happy that day. Open your notes when you need a boost.
Head to the spa for a scheduled treatment and practice relaxing!
Write down at least five things that make you grateful.
Pet your cat or dog.
Print out this list of self-care activities and keep it handy for reference if you get stuck.

2) Select each activity from your list and put it in your day planner or calendar for the upcoming month. I personally use Mel Robbin’s 5-Second Journal.

Do you have a full calendar? Start small and schedule short five-minute activities. If you schedule them in your phone, turn on a sound notification so when it dings, you know to take 5.

Remember: Be specific. What day, what time, and for how long? If you need to leave the house, how will you get there and what time will you leave your house?

Examples:

On this Tuesday at 8pm, I will take an epsom salt bath for 30 minutes.

Next Sunday at 11am, I will go snowshoeing at Empire Bluffs Trail in Empire, Michigan with my dog for an hour and a half.

Give yourself some self-respect and nurturing this month.

YOU are worth making YOU a habit!

Need an accountability buddy? We are here to support you in the Attuned Coaching private Facebook group, Mindset Masters Unite! Our community comes together to share our daily mindset accomplishments and struggles. Find daily motivation and tips on kicking ass with a Growth Mindset by joining us here! Each day this December, we will be sharing our self-care activities.

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10/31/2018 0 Comments

CHOOSE YOU | PT. 2

Fall is here and the nights are getting cooler.
Signs indicate that you need to harvest the produce before it rots and is no longer edible.
Consider that you have no other source of food for the winter. 
Your priority is to harvest your garden.

Now that you’ve started incorporating the first three action steps from Choose You Pt. 1, we are introducing the following four habits that address interdependence (i.e. working with others).

Reminder: Each of the bolded steps below corresponds with one of S. Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

4. THINK WIN-WIN: CONNECT

When we plant a garden, we need to consider how ALL the vegetables, herbs, insects and flowers can win and thrive in the garden. We call this combination planting -- how the plants, insects, and animals all interconnect with each other. What plants should go next to each other so they can all win? Can some of the plants have symbiotic relationships with other plants and animals? Perhaps you can leave the broccoli and let it go to flower for the insects to enjoy. It is not just about how you can benefit from this garden, but how everything can benefit from this garden.

How do we feel internally when we are connecting and feeling supported? Usually pretty good, right?The win-win comes from having a growth mindset that considers how everyone can win. This might be a new concept for some people. Most of us grew up around the idea that there is a winner and a loser. In other words, someone had to win and it was usually our parents. In the past, we might have felt like we needed to collapse, rebel or rationalize (all childhood strategies) or the love would go away. In court, sports, and our everyday relationships, we are programmed to assume that there will be a winner and a loser. Would you consider changing that perception so everyone wins? To fully experience interdependence, we have to be willing to open our hearts to each other and empathize. Adopting a growth mindset will allow us to have more courage and vulnerability. Together, let’s change our perceptions and open our hearts. Let’s make true connections

5. SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD: ACTIVE LISTENING

How do we understand what is happening in the garden if we don’t know anything about the plants, soil, or gardening methods? We must first strive to understand plant varieties and even some soil science. We also need to understand how it all works together and the proper tools to use. How can we listen and take in what our garden is communicating to us through senses?

We will not have strong connections with others unless we first seek to understand them. We can do this by actively practicing listening skills, allowing us to more genuinely understand what the other person is saying. Listening with an open mind facilitates a positive connection with the other person as well as a growth mindset. This is an important skill to continually work on. Check out my active listening skills handout on how to practice this skill.

6. SYNERGIZE: GROW UP

There is a synergy of mycelium that interconnects everything under the surface of the soil. This interconnectedness is happening in our bodies too — through fascia. Nothing is separate or functions separately. Just go out and put your hand under the soil and see for yourself!

Now we come together. We find our tribe of people that lift us out of childhood patterns. We stop using our child defenses and act as grown ups — calling each other on our shit. We must learn that acting in our childhood patterns does not serve growth and does not allow others to see who we truly are. We need to finally realize that as adults, cheerleading each other through our negative, old, painful stories keeps us stuck and feeling bad — this is not growth. Instead, we need to grow up and finally see that we are NOT our stories. Instead, let's find our true essences, which have been within us all along.

7. GROWTH: KEEP GOING

When late summer rolls around you might feel burnt out on gardening, but if you remember to plant your fall crops, like spinach, peas and garlic, you will be eating well into the fall — or have garlic to harvest next summer! You have to continually be thinking ahead to sustain your garden’s harvest for as long as you can. Growing is not always easy. But to stay healthy and have the nutrients you need in your body to feel healthy, you need to keep going and growing!

You are now a conscious human BEING. You now know what is meaningful to you and how to integrate it into your new life. It does not stop there, however. Growth is always changing — just watch your garden grow! Each stage has new growth and each stage needs new tools and actions steps to keep it all functioning at its maximum healthy potential. Keep growing and don’t become fixed in anything.

Wisdom comes from this internal place of knowing that it is NEVER outside of us, it is always WITHIN. Explore, be curious, have a growth mindset, and practice your action steps from the present moment. Ask yourself — who am I taking myself to be? Your orientation is from TRUTH and when you come out of hiding, you stop lying to yourself. Remember, NOBODY is coming to save you, NOBODY BUT YOU! YOU are it! CHOOSE YOU!

READING LIST

7 Habits of Effective People by Stephen R. Covey

Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy by Jon Gordon

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