Do you ever feel that someone else is running your life and it isn't the life you actually want?
I recently witnessed a true shift in consciousness. For the first time, this person (let's call her "Julie") identified and then let go of her inner judge voice.
When I started working with Julie, who is in her 70s, she didn't know what she wanted to do with the rest of her life. Julie struggled with depression and merging with her children. She felt as if her life was going by so fast, but she was stuck in this double-bind of not being able to fulfill her desires while simultaneously keeping everyone happy.
In her processing, Julie recognized that she had difficulty moving toward what she truly wanted because of her strong inner judge. After recognizing this hurdle, we went through the following steps together.
The first step was working on identifying who the judge was and how it controlled her daily life. While grounded into her body, Julie found that she was collapsed by her mother’s energy riding on her back (metaphorically, of course). Julie's mother has been dead for 16 years. She allowed herself to feel how this energy lived in her body.
The second step was being the judge voice. Julie preceded to voice out loud what the inner judge voice was saying. The true energy of her mother was allowed to come out in that moment and we could feel that this voice was not actually Julie's voice (it even sounded like her mother).
The next step was standing up to the judge voice. Julie had to STOP the judge and not rationalize, defend, or collapse (all childhood strategies). She needed to ground her body again and feel how the inner judge voice was crippling her from moving forward. She had to feel how this inner critic had caused her pain.
This was not an easy step. Julie practiced many different strategies to try and stop the judge. But, finally, she found the strategy that set her free. She now feels and exerts a new strength in her mind and body.
Now that Julie is free of the judge, she is fully in her body - relaxed and standing without her mother on her back. She is full of strength, which allows her true essence to shine - a playful joyfulness.
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We go through life ‘thinking’ many thoughts all day long until we close our eyes and fall into sleep. Have we ever wondered who is this voice? Is this voice really us? If it is not us than who is this voice that runs our life? Why is this voice so mean to us? Why can’t I ever get anything right? Why do I want to control the outside world? This voice is relentless and I don’t know about you, but for me I pretty much wish I could push DELETE so that voice would go away. Or better yet, I'd like to strangle that voice. I got so tired of the voice, I decided to do something about it. I started to put in the work to answer these questions.
When I first started to work on my inner judge voice, I journaled every day for a whole year. Today, I continue to journal about what that inner voice says to me and how that voice runs my life. In this self-investigation, I found this judge voice to be mind blowing, especially when I looked at it from a big picture context. One judgment is not so bad, but when you combine all of the judgements you have daily for a full year, it can add up to a lifetime of pain and suffering. Not only to myself but also to everyone that I interacted with.
Wendy Wagoner has explored numerous avenues of disciplines over the last 30 years. She is a professional Awakening Coach, healer, and experienced workshop leader.
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